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I would like to know how to deal with a break up with someone who is a christian, that cheated on u but don’t have the courage to talk to u about it, and let u feel as if u where the bad one and you really had feelings for the person.
Dear Karen,
What this person did to you really hurts, especially since you had deep feelings for him. You have every right to feel what you feel–and it’s natural to feel betrayed and broken-hearted. But he is the one with the real problem; he committed the sin of cheating on you and has to deal with that.
He may never ask you for forgiveness, but I encourage you to forgive him. It’s what God commands, and it’ll free up your heart to move on, without bitterness taking root in your heart. Even if you feel you can’t forgive him, you can do so by faith, in Jesus’ strength. Just talk to God about how you feel, and tell God that you want to forgive this person with God’s help and power. If Jesus told us to pray for our enemies and those who hurt us, He can surely help us to forgive those who hurt us.
God will use this painful experience in your life somehow. We may not know how, but He doesn’t waste pain in the lives of His children. God is always good, even when life feels really bad.
God bless you!
Allison
Hello,
My husband left me not this last Nov, but the Nov. before, so it’s been about 1 year and some, my husband had been cheating on me for 1 and 1/2 years while we were still togeather! This woman is alot older then me, i’m 55 and it hurts so bad to think that while he was still living with me, he was cheating on me, I do forgive him, and her! I Pray for them, but now my husband has left hints (he calls, and once in awhle comes over for afew min.) he wishes he would have never done this, I don’t trust him!! And one min. I wish in my heart he has not done this to me, the next min. I want so bad to move on and then another min. I wonder if I should get back with him no matter what. I’m without friends etc. or church to go to, because i’m disabled and without a car or whatever so I cannot get around! I have one daughter that lives here, but they had had alot of hard knocks this last year (lost job, fire in kitchen, car broke down) so with all that’s going on I’m wondering, why is it that i’m a Christian and my husband does not even act or live like one, is it that his life seems to be going great, but my life is just falling apart day by day? The Lord has provided me ways of getting grocerys etc. so don’t get me wrong, but there are time i’ve had to wait till the last morsel of food is almost gone, then I seem to get help (usually by my daugher and her man borrowing a car etc. etc.) but why is it my husbands life so sweet it seems, and mine is so so hard at times? Like I said I (due to him when we were togeather always wanting me at home) I have no friends that I can count on etc. (all my family’s live out of State, and I stay here for my daughter and 2 precious grandbabys) I’ve been Praying with the way things are in my life right now that the Lord help me, and I do have faith that it will happen in the Lords timing, but why is it that my husband still seems to be having such a great life, and he’s the one who has committed adulty on me? I can’t even find away to get up to get a devorse like I think is approprete now!! Just needed someone to talk to about what’s on my heart, I only wished I had friends etc. But like I said i’ve been more or less locked up for 10 years of this marriage that I don’t know how to go about doing anything anymore, i’m scared to even go outside sometimes by myself, i’ve not been without someone in so long!! I just want friends where I live!! Christian friends that is! Sorry for this being so long, I’m disabled and can’t get around much on my own, so this is where I spend my day in and day out always!!! At home!
Thank you for listening!
Tresa
Tresa, you need to break this situation into ‘bite sized chunks’. At the moment you see that your cheating ex seems to be having a good time, but how, as someone who has not found the Lord, can that really be so?
You need to hear the Lord giving you that inner strength to bear the current hurts. You are a strong person with his help. You can bear the burdens, He has already proved that to you.Enjoy your beautiful family.
Look into that mirror and love yourself, Jesus loves you. Never mind what has happened with your husband. Pray for Jesus to guide you about your future life with or without your husband. Pray that he turns to the Lord so that he then may begin to trat you right. In the meantime, ask your lovely family to take you out, a bit at a time -maybe to your church to pray with others and gain the fellowship of your fellow Christians in your community. Have courage for the Lord will give you the strength to do this.
And also pray for the strength and courage to manage your disability the best way possible. Remember, Jesus loves you just as you are, use his love to give you the strength you need to get out there and make friends. Let these new friends know that you are hurting and ask them to pray for your inner strength to move your life forward and gain peace and happiness. I will pray for you.
May God be with you always,
Helen